“Action is better than inaction” is one of my truths.

Perfection is the enemy of progress. In the pursuit of an inspired life, when we feel called to create, we’ve gotta get moving. We learn through creating, even if we don’t have the final version of it completely mapped out. The journey requires action.

This does not mean that we don’t have moments of contemplation or planning. But after we give it thought and the time comes to take that first step, we do it.

“The answers we seek lie within us” is one of my truths.

If I am just patient enough, the answers eventually appear. And for the biggest questions, the answers have always come from within after I finally get quiet enough to ponder what I am really asking and truly listen.

Developing the trust and a knowing that I personally can solve my problems has empowered me. This does not mean that the actual solution has to come from me but the ability to source and determine the right solution does.

No one else can decide whether something is the “right” answer except me. The answer of “Is this what I’m looking for?” always comes from within.

“We signed up for this life and its lessons” is one of my truths.

I think the first time I heard this concept was from Wayne Dyer. He spoke about the family he was born into, his challenges while being young and an orphan and how he came to this realization that he was meant to go through those trials in order for him to help others. That really made an impact on me.

After hearing him share this idea a few times, I tried it on as a lens for my life, as I often do with new ideas, to see if it fit. To see if, when I looked at it with a 360° mirror, it made sense in all situations. And after over a decade, I still very much believe that I signed up for this life and when I go through tougher times, I remind myself that this is something I can overcome as I signed up for it.

Now, I have not had horrible abuse inflicted upon me, and maybe if I did, this truth wouldn’t ring as true. This truth is mine alone and is not meant to overshadow the very real and truly awful situations others go through. This is important to note because one person’s truth or medicine can be another person’s poison.

After becoming a mother, this truth has provided solace to how some things are not within my control and how our lessons as parent and child are intertwined and independent of each other all at the same time. This truth has offered me comfort in my inability to help everyone (which often isn’t my role) and in my “failures.”

I guess I have adopted this truth because I see evidence that it is true and because I want it to be true – both cases have saved me.

“No one can be helped if they don’t want it” is one of my truths.

Oh boy, this has been one of the hardest truths and lessons.

When I learn new and useful information, I want everyone to know about it! I mean, why wouldn’t they? Their life will be changed! Their problems will be solved! They will feel happier and healthier and inspired!

Except when I first started sharing information, people did not feel those things. Instead, they felt pressured and lacking and unheard. They didn’t want my help. And that felt like a dagger to my heart.

But sometimes the truth hurts.

And the truth is, no one can be helped if they don’t want the help. Until they are ready, I can share my knowledge more broadly and acknowledge that we are all on our individual journeys – not everyone’s problems can be or will be solved by me.

“Everything happens for a reason” is one of my truths.

When I first started believing this, it was only in hindsight because I was removed enough from the pain of the experience to see its lessons. As I noticed more and more incidents in my life that supported this truth, it became stronger and stronger.

And as that has happened, I have been able to employ this truth while being in some terrible, no-good situations. This has required a lot of trust to believe. And sometimes I don’t choose that wider lens because, after all, I am human and sometimes things just suck.

Maybe one day I will be able to have that lens 24/7/365 and maybe not. Only time will tell.

While I feel this truth deep in my bones, I do not think this is a truth for me to preach to others as gospel because if I were to do that, it’d basically be gaslighting the hurt that people feel. This truth is mine alone and not anyone else’s unless they feel it deep in their bones as well.