“We signed up for this life and its lessons” is one of my truths.
I think the first time I heard this concept was from Wayne Dyer. He spoke about the family he was born into, his challenges while being young and an orphan and how he came to this realization that he was meant to go through those trials in order for him to help others. That really made an impact on me.
After hearing him share this idea a few times, I tried it on as a lens for my life, as I often do with new ideas, to see if it fit. To see if, when I looked at it with a 360° mirror, it made sense in all situations. And after over a decade, I still very much believe that I signed up for this life and when I go through tougher times, I remind myself that this is something I can overcome as I signed up for it.
Now, I have not had horrible abuse inflicted upon me, and maybe if I did, this truth wouldn’t ring as true. This truth is mine alone and is not meant to overshadow the very real and truly awful situations others go through. This is important to note because one person’s truth or medicine can be another person’s poison.
After becoming a mother, this truth has provided solace to how some things are not within my control and how our lessons as parent and child are intertwined and independent of each other all at the same time. This truth has offered me comfort in my inability to help everyone (which often isn’t my role) and in my “failures.”
I guess I have adopted this truth because I see evidence that it is true and because I want it to be true – both cases have saved me.