“I don’t think I can.”
Who is the “I” who is doing the thinking and who is the “I” who is wanting to do the thing?
They are not the same entity.
One is ego, and one is your true self.
Remove the ego and you get, “I can.”
[The ideas in this post originates with teachings from Eckhart Tolle, spiritual teacher and author of many pivotal books including A New Earth, which saved me from myself in 2012.]
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Not everyone will love all parts of us.
And in thinking that, we may feel the need to turn down the switch on a part of us because it is “too much” for the other person. And we think, maybe after they get to know us better, we can dial it back up.
And sometimes we do and sometimes we don’t.
You are an adult, and it is your choice to approach new relationships like this.
But know – you are dialing back who you are not because you are too much but because the other person does not have the capacity to accept you fully.
You may want to continue building those relationship and that is your right, but also seek conversations with people who are open to receiving all of you. Your too much is just right in their spaces.
We have holidays for everything.
You’ve got your standard Independence Day and Labor Day.
But then you’ve got the more interesting ones…
National Bird Day
Something on a Stick Day
California Poppy Day
Take Your Houseplants for a Walk Day
Looking at the calendar, I realized what these holidays ultimately are.
Days of gratitude.
And everyday, more and more holidays are being added to the calendar. And everyone gets excited because they get to celebrate all the things they love. I’m not so sure commercialized holidays are what will make us happier or more grateful.
Instead, maybe we can start to be grateful everyday for what we have.
What are you really good at?
What comes so easily to you that you don’t even think about it? That you completely disregard its worth.
But why is something only worthy if it is hard to come by?
What may be a commodity to you is not necessarily a commodity to others. In fact, it may be the gold that they want and need.
If you had infinite amounts of gold, would you not want to share it with everyone?
As a child, we look to our parents for reassurance. A simple nod or indication that we are on the right path.
If we are lucky, they will say that we did well and they are proud of us.
However, “experts” say if raised “correctly” by instilling internal drive, children won’t need a carrot to work towards their goals. That a healthy child-parent relationship means that the child does not need the parent’s approval.
Perhaps as adults, we don’t need approval but the reassurance from our parents is never unwelcome. We are all children seeking our way home. A simple nod or indication that we are on the right path would be that little something extra that ushers us along our path.
And absent of that, a community of like-minded people can offer similar reassurance, energetically holding space and giving that simple nod as needed.