Perfect does not exist.

What if we were to operate with that knowing?

What if we gave ourselves the opportunity to show up as we are, imperfectly flawed and yet still whole?

What if we were taught from a young age that we can be whole and imperfect at the same time? How would we talk to ourselves and to others? How would we contribute to this world?

Unexpressed emotions live within us. In our muscles, bones, and îorgans. When our younger selves were sad/scared/disappointed/jealous/angry, we chose to store those feelings instead of experiencing them and to tell ourselves stories to keep them there instead of feeling them. 

Actually feeling emotions is scary. Especially ones that are decades old. We have told ourselves so many stories over the years to keep those feelings down, it can feel very complicated and overwhelming to try to untangle them. 

But to become whole again, we need to identify those stories and excavate those emotions. Our emotions need to be felt and expressed, and our stories need to be rewritten. 

The primary objective of our brain is survival. When we are faced with a tiger or have to make a split second decision to dodge a vehicle, we want to consult our brain.

In instances of making hard decisions about our careers, relationships, or other such matters, survival may not necessarily be the objective. In those cases, we should move away from the brain and look to our heart.

The primary objective of our heart is, unsurprisingly, love. Our hearts want us immersed in love, wonder and joy. Perhaps it is not practical to think we should always go with our heart; however, it is most certainly true that we should consult our heart more than we do currently.

We are a brain-centered society that values smarts over compassion, success over community, and domination over equity. If we could move our basis for decisions from the formers to the latters, we would have a much more beautiful world.

It is a wonder that we can get out of bed sometimes – we have so many layers of expectations on us.

Expectations from society.
From our community.
From our work.
From our families, and friends.
And, last but not least, from ourselves.

However, it is only hard to work through this many layers when we try to work from the outside in.

If we work from the inside out, it is quite easy to get to the most important ‘judge’ of all – ourselves.

The saying goes “Hindsight is 20/20.” It is only after we experience something that we are able to say why it happened.

Makes sense, right?

Well, what if we could have hindsight vision in the present?

I think it is possible!

When I popped the wheel on my car a few weeks ago, I experienced a touch of this hindsight vision in the present day. It was a new experience for me and a bit overwhelming as I was thrown into the midst of trying to contact my husband, car company, doctor and family and friends but I did not feel sorry for myself and I was not crying “Woe is me.”

Instead, I had a knowing that the tire popped for a reason. I didn’t know the reason nor do I ever need to know it. Knowing that it happened for a reason was enough for me to get off the pity train and step into my power.

One of my truths is that everything happens for a reason. It is only through my hindsight that I have come to this conclusion so don’t throw out the hindsight. It is immensely important to practice hindsight so that then, we can see 20/20 in the present when the time comes.