When I think of the qualities of the feminine, of Yin and of nature, there is an ease to it.
A natural flowing of season to season…of river to sea…of moon to moon.
As women, we are a microcosm of nature as our flowing cycles match the cycles of the moon…as our curved hips match the fertile hills of the earth.
Knowing this, others may expect us to go with the flow – but whose flow is it?
We need to be discerning of who we flow alongside and protect and preserve our flow.
When I worked for a commercial architecture and civil engineering firm, I learned that architecture is very intentional.
As the architect, you have to consider the whole experience of all the types of people who will occupy the space. This includes what they see when they walk in, how they flow through the rooms, where the entrances and exits are, and so on.
It requires a lot of up front thinking because once you start pouring the foundation, framing and putting up walls, it is a whole lot harder to change things.
Lucky for us humans, as architects of our lives, we get opportunities to re-design whenever we want. Sure, sometimes it feels like change is the equivalent of demolishing a perfectly fine building, but what if your intention is to plant a new forest on that land?
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Haven’t ever architect-ed your life before? Don’t worry – that funny feeling is normal. This isn’t something that they teach us in school.
I’m excited to offer you the opportunity to be the architect of your life this Saturday, January 23rd, with Your Word, Your Year, a class where soulful moms get back in touch with their dreams and the things that move them.
January is the perfect time to pour a new foundation for the year.
With intention and a dash of magic, set forth a new design for your 2021. No, it’s not too late.
Learn more here.
We are masterful storytellers.
Not in the way of writing fantasy novels or epic movies but in the stories we tell ourselves every.single.day.
We create stories to make sense of why our child is “disobeying.”
We develop twisted plotlines to explain why our partner never takes out the trash.
We tell epic sagas of how life would be better if only.
The stories we tell ourselves are often painful but they don’t have to be.
Instead, what if your stories helped you see the good in the world, widen your perspective and offer more compassion to yourself and others?
Wayne Dyer said, “How people treat you is their karma; how you react is yours.”
I remember my head nearly exploding the first time I heard this.
His interpretation of karma has freed me and my ego (though I need a good reminding every once in a while).
Ultimately, we don’t have control over others’ actions. We only have control over our own. If others treat me poorly, it has nothing to do with me. Furthermore, if others treat me kindly, it also has nothing to do with me.
All that matters is how I choose to act and react.
I learned skills, tactics and behaviors in order to survive childhood.
As children, everything is a matter of survival.
I liked getting gold stars and A’s in school.
I learned…follow instructions – get it right.
Once, I tried to stop a yelling match between family members. It didn’t work.
I learned…my voice doesn’t matter – don’t speak up.
At 6 years old, I started translating official forms, bills and phone calls.
I learned…my family’s survival depended on me – I must succeed.
Those learnings helped me reach adulthood, but they no longer serve me now.
What’s amazing is we all carry such learnings.