Life is one big experiment. There is no right or wrong way of experiencing it because no one has lived my life.
Standards exist and are considered to be the norm. However, normal does not mean that standard is applicable to my life (or anyone else’s really).
Instead of criticizing what is, wishing for what will be or what should have been or adhering to some sort of arbitrary standard, I observe.
I observe as if life is all a big experiment and I don’t have a horse in the race for it to go one way or another.
Observing leads me to not be so attached to who I am, who I was and who I want to be. Non-attachment is a beautifully explained in this episode of the Secular Buddhism podcast. In the episode, he shares an unattributed quote, “Non-attachment doesn’t mean we don’t own things. It means we don’t allow things to own us.”
Who knew that my practice of observing had a name to it and is part of a bigger existence? What an enjoyable observation.