Our experiences with our children can be triggering and, on the other side of it, healing.
And children come here with a role in our healing.
But that role is not all of who they are. Nor is it their purpose.
Yes, they are incredible mirrors and offer a well of wisdom, but they are their own person.
It is easy to default to seeing them in relation to who we are because without us, there is no them and without them, there is no us. That’s unimaginable.
But at a certain point in their life, someone will know them without any connection to who we are. They will never be known to them as our child.
How scary to think that will be the case.
But that parent-child relationship always be present. Maybe in the way they hold the door open for others or in how they set boundaries or in the confidence they exude.
Parenting is largely a preparation for when our children are no longer known as our children.