A map can only be drawn by someone who has seen and taken the path.

There is no map for your life.

The mountains you’ve had to climb and the ditches you’ve been stuck in are only yours to draw.

When someone tries to give us a map for our lives, it won’t work. But if they give us guidelines or strategies to climb mountains or climb out of ditches, that’s worth listening to.

Most mothers survive the day to day.

In theory, modern motherhood works because mothers live to tell the tale.

Theories are all fine and good in academic papers but theories do nothing for people and lived experiences.

Current circumstances do not support mothers who are drowning in responsibilities, in pressures from all sides, in dream that are put on indefinite hold.

Change happens when theories are challenged.

The paradigm of modern motherhood must shift. The ones who wrote the theories in the first place never had the wellbeing of mothers in mind. It was about surviving for them, not thriving.

Let’s create a new theory that supports the thriving of mothers.

Memories sometimes seem like a dream.

Did they ever really happen?

How much of the details are accurate?

Who determines that accuracy? And does it matter if they are accurate?

What about the memories that never were? If I never remembered a memory in the first place, did it matter that it happened at all?

What we remember of our memories tells us as much as what we forget about them.