When something is unresolved, I play it over and over in my head. And my husband is often the lucky human who I try to make sense of it with repeat conversations but talking and reasoning with a situation that is out of my control does not complete that open-ended cycle.
The answer, instead, is to dance, move, run, scream that frustrated, stagnant energy out of my body. Release the pent up desire to try to control the situation by talking about it to death.
No more talking – move instead.