One way of getting to the true answer is to ask – what would you do if no one was watching?
I feel anger when my child does something.
Is it her or is it me?
The frustrating realization time and time again is that it is me.
My reaction is always mine.
Sure, children can be triggering but not without a switch, and that switch lies in me.
Humans have this amazing capability to think, but we also have this flaw in overthinking.
One way it manifests is when we make a decision. We think we should do something because of some external factor.
I think I should try Keto because Bethany is doing it.
I think I’ll buy the black car instead of the red because red cars get stolen more.
I think I’ll read this fiction book because I haven’t read fiction in a while.
For the love of it all, stop thinking!
What do you want? Inside your heart, not your brain.
Don’t wait any longer before healing.
Right now, no matter what age you are, you have a lifetime worth of stories in you.
By the time we are six or seven, we have imprinted our understanding of our self and the world.
You have more than enough to start the inner work. Don’t wait to come across another hurdle. Take this post as a sign.
When I was a teenager, I was walking along the sidewalk on a busy street near my house, tripped on a slab of the slate sidewalk that was jutting out and caught myself before faceplanting. As I stood up, I could feel this immediate rush of blood overcome my face and was terrified that someone in a car saw what happened. For the record, if any car saw me trip, they were long gone by the time I had this thought.
That was the first time I experienced, what I assume is, blushing. It was such an unusual sensation. I could feel the rise of heat coming from my neck up to my forehead and then flow back down after a few seconds. While I was a self-conscious person before that, I hadn’t had a physical manifestation of my self-consciousness until that moment.
Self-conscious is a funny term. In one instance, like above, it means to be aware of how I am being perceived by others, and then, in a completely different vein, it can also mean to be aware of myself and who I am.
Both are about awareness, but one can be our super power and the other can be our kryptonite.
The more we are conscious of our selves and who we are, the less we are concerned about the perception of who we are by other people. Now, at the end of the day, we are human and are wired for connection and security through community so completely shedding care about how others perceive us may not be 100% ideal either.
However, what we can all use more of is the unattached perception of self – it is a game changer.