Who am I?
In 2015, I was listening to a podcast while driving to an appointment when I realized I didn’t know the answer to this question. I remember pulling into my parking spot outside of my appointment and wondering, “What the heck. How do I not know who I am?!”
It was a perfect storm of events leading up to that moment in my Mazda 3 including the most pivotal event of my life – becoming a mother 6 months prior.
My new role as a mother had me questioning not only everything around me but also within me.
I have long used words to describe what I am. I am a daughter, a sister, a wife, a mother, an employee, an entrepreneur…
And how I am. I am short, introverted but a little extroverted, Chinese, simple but complicated, logical and strategic, creative…
And what I love. I love holistic health, personal development, many things “woo-woo”, business, strategy, cooking, motherhood…
I have also acquired a fair number of nicknames in my lifetime – Lisa Pizza, Chin Up, Babyshoes, Lisa Baggins, Chindot…
But none of these words do the whole me justice.
Aristotle got it right when he said, “The whole is greater than the sum of its parts.”
In no other way is this more applicable than in describing ourselves, or at least I’d like to think so.
Using nouns, adjectives and interests are futile because there is this invisible magic sauce that is indescribable. It is impossible to answer “Who am I?” in any number of words.
Even a million word auto biography would be insufficient in telling the full story of my thirty something years. I’m sure you could say the same.
I have found that it is our truths and what we stand for that best describe who we are.
After that fateful car ride, I kick-started my self exploration journey in 2015 which I’ll document on Lisa for Real soon.
Through that process, I came to realize my truths and I also found that I stand strongly for female empowerment. Don’t get me wrong though. I am not a feminist, never have been and never will be.
My dear friend Google tell me feminism is “the advocacy of women’s rights on the grounds of political, social, and economic equality to men” (emphasis added).
Those three words are why I am not a feminist. I don’t believe that women should have equal rights to men. That means that it’s a man’s world and we are trying to fit into it. This is OUR world. Women should have the ability to build our own political, social and economic standards separate of the ones that men have built. I believe as a collective, we have barely tapped into how powerful women are because we have been so focused on being equals to men.
FORGET BEING EQUALS!
We are powerful beyond our wildest imagination. Each of us has a strength in us that can change the world. That is the feminine power we were born with.
I am for real.
Lisa for Real is a catalouge (yup, I just got British on you) of my realest thoughts. It is me for real. My personal musings on feminine power in the areas of careers, relationships, motherhood, self identity, and whatever else I am drawn to.
I am also for real, as in authenticity, in wholeness, in being true to ourselves. This includes being for real health, food, relationships, hugs, connection, careers, business, identity and it goes on…
Does this jive with you? I would love to hear from you! Shoot me an email. I love meeting others who are on this journey to realness.
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