When we do something for long enough, it is easy to say I’m a ____ kinda person. We attach said thing to our personality, our identity, allowing it to define who we are.

It could be something positive, like writing everyday – “I’m a writer” – or it may be something negative like smoking – “I’m a smoker.” But even saying positive and negative here attaches some sort of judgment to what is being done.

In reality, anything done to that point that it becomes a part of us is worth re-examining. Does that thing have control of me, or am I still dictating the relationship?

This can go for something “positive” like writing or something “negative” like smoking.

Today, due to circumstances out of my control, I did not wake up early and start my day with a meditation – the first time in about a month. I felt some level of guilt around it but I have broken enough streaks to know that the lapse does not define me unless I allow it to. Yes, meditation is a wonderful thing but isn’t the point of it to practice unattachment? How ironic it would be of me to lose presence in this situation?

Sticking to something is a positive thing, until it isn’t. Don’t allow consistency or breaking that consistency to define you.


I write everyday because it allows me to voice what is at the surface. Once that is out of my head, I can dig in another layer deeper. My daily writing practice has been my greatest exploration of self and humanity. Sign up here to receive these thought nuggets in your inbox on the daily.