If you’ve read some of my previous posts, you may know that I’ve been so-so on affirmations.

I have not thought that affirmations work because they don’t address the underlying subconscious thoughts that are driving our undesired thoughts and behavior.

But I may have come up with my way of doing affirmations that addresses subconscious thoughts by marrying affirmations with inner child work.

First is stating the affirmation – we can go with “I am worthy” for this post.

“I am worthy” is stated by the current version of us. The “I” as in who we are right now. This is normal affirmation speak, and it’s fine but I believe that the current version of ourselves believes the statement so it’s not like they need to hear it. By repeating it over and over, we are just telling ourselves something we know.

Next, we say, “You are worthy.”

And this is where it gets interesting. The “you” we speak to is the earliest version of us that needs to hear those words. This is not a one and done kind of thing. There are likely many versions of us that need to hear us affirm to them. So we can say “You are worthy” as many times as we want or we can focus on one version of us and hold off on future versions until the next time.

Lastly, we say “We are worthy.”

This brings present day you and previous you together, joining the both of you in the affirmational thought so you can work towards that reality together.

Inner child work/healing can feel harrowing sometimes but hopefully, this three step affirmation process gives you a tool to use that is gentle and simple. I’d love to hear what you think.


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