The fear of not being good enough is paralyzing.
It has been an unspoken understanding between myself and the world that I must try to be the best I can be. This was never something instilled in me by my parents and yet it feels like it’s in my blood.
In trying to break out of paralysis, it’s important to recognize that the “best” is all relative – it really all depends on who we compare ourselves to. With the world as vast as it is, the pool of comparison is very wide and very very deep. And it means you sink or swim.
But what if we shrunk our pool down? Maybe even to the size of a kiddie pool. What if instead of comparing ourselves to the abilities/success/personality of everyone with a pulse, including ultra celebrities and people who grew up with more generational wealth, we trim it down to a much smaller pool?
I am not so sure comparison is the healthiest practice, but if our mind is going that way anyway, let’s work with it. And in real life, we can further counter the comparison trap with community – people who will bring out our best without expecting us to be the best.
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