Being seen can be liberating. A feeling of finally! And on the other side of the coin is complete and utter fear and powerlessness as the desire to retreat takes hold and we unconsciously hide away emerging occasionally to peek around and see if it is safe again to come out.
We want to be seen. Because in order to do our best work, we’ve got to get out there. Our intellectual brains know this and works towards it.
However, if we grew up not feeling seen and not being seen by the important people in our lives (parents, family, teachers, etc.), the sensations are unfamiliar and feel very unsafe in our bodies. Double that for marginalized folks (women, LGBTQIA+, BIPOC, people with disabilities, low income, etc.) who aren’t seen by society.
So not only are we working with systemic limitations in order to get our work out there but then we are having to deal with these beliefs that rear their head every time it feels like we are making any progress.
There will never be enough external validation to bring us out of our fear of being seen. It needs to come from the inside out. The way to get there is inner healing, embodying our power and knowing our truths.
If you find yourself flip flopping on wanting to be seen, contact me to schedule a 20 minute exploratory session so we can start uncovering what is keeping you hidden.
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