Blaming yourself can actually be a good indicator of your power.
If you believe that YOU are the one at fault and that You are the sole reason for your problem, then you believe that you had enough agency to create your not-so-great situation. And if that is true, then you have enough agency to create the solution!
Spin that blame around and realize that you have the power to shift your role in your problematic situation.
I write everyday because it allows me to voice what is at the surface. Once that is out of my head, I can dig in another layer deeper. My daily writing practice has been my greatest exploration of self and humanity. Sign up here to receive these thought nuggets in your inbox on the daily.