I had a 3.5 day agenda planned with one of my kids as the rest of the family traveled elsewhere. It would be the first one-on-one time we’ve had since they became an older sibling. I was really looking forward to this special time together. Unfortunately, they got sick and we had to scrap the whole agenda.
However, the 3.5 days were even more connective than I could have planned. We enjoyed each other’s company and were truly able to feed our relationship.
We can plan out the “how’s” all we want as we work towards a goal or intention. However, those “how’s” are more a wish list than anything else.
Ultimately, we have no control over the how’s. When things don’t work out the way we expect, we must hold space for things to unfold to meet the goal or intention that we have in mind. If we allow our disappointment, sadness or anger to overtake us, we will miss what the opportunity actually gave to us.
