I remember learning in the early years of parenting that our children lash out at us because we are their safe place. Unwavering love means that you can be a really difficult, moody, or angry and you will not be less loved. So if you have a child erupting in all sorts of manners – congratulations, your child knows you love them.
As an adult, I find myself still doing that to my safe places. While knowing these relationships are precious and most important to me, I still get angry ,and my children feel part of this.
Their no-strings-attached love is worthy dying for. Why, as a rational adult, can I not step back and not lose my cool with them?
Ultimately, we are all wounded children deep inside. Our job as adults is to heal ourselves so our children don’t require healing (or as much).
There is no shame, and there is no blame. There is only being human and doing the best we can.
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