We are wired to create connections on commonalities.
The thought process goes something like “You do this and I do this. We have that in common. We must have other things in common. You are a person I am like and so I like you.”
But what we have in common is important to note.
If that thing we are connecting on is something we love, there is an element of joy in it. It feels more sustainable and more authentic. There is an expansiveness to it.
If that thing we are connecting on is a common thing we hate, the relationship feels more superficial and weak.
This is not to say that we can’t start friendships on “things we hate” but beware when conversations are based on only the negative.
A daily practice challenges the person who creates on “inspiration.” We have to mother everyday, and ultimately, it is the daily grind that gives us perspective, clarity and the “high’s” of motherhood. I am exploring if the same happens when I write everyday on the topics that normally light me up – motherhood, self-development, healing and creating. Sign up here to receive those thought nuggets in your inbox on the daily.