Control is something we all want to have in one form or another. I’ve learned slowly, over time and repeatedly that there is only so much I can control.
Parenting has been a huge lesson in how false the idea of control is. There is nothing like trying to mother a spirited child to really bring you back down to earth. Whenever I try to take control while parenting, I am miserable.
And really, this goes into any relationship. With my partner and mother and family and friends – though I can’t say I have as much desire to control them as I do my kids.
What helps me grounded while parenting and times where I feel like I have very little control is my favorite lesson from Wayne Dyer – his quote on karma – “How people treat you is their karma; how you react is yours.”
I only have control over how I react to other people and situations.
And so the ultimate self work is in examining those reactions, healing the ones that are undesirable and continuing to dig into the layers of who we are.
A daily practice challenges the person who creates on “inspiration.” We have to mother everyday, and ultimately, it is the daily grind that gives us perspective, clarity and the “high’s” of motherhood. I am exploring if the same happens when I write everyday on the topics that normally light me up – motherhood, self-development, healing and creating. Sign up here to receive those thought nuggets in your inbox on the daily.