I’ll be in conversations with friends or family, and I think, “Wow, this person is amazing. They are giving me so much, and I’m like a lump on a log. I’ve gotta think of something helpful to say/do or I won’t be giving enough.”
At some point growing up, the idea of fairness came to mean an equal exchange. And that idea carried over to relationships where each conversation has to end up “even.”
But that’s not how relationships work. The give and take exchange does not have to be even at the end of each interaction. A relationship takes place over time and that give and take does as well. And just maybe, that “deficit,” which is really gratitude, keeps us going back to the other person to try to even it out.
At the end of the day, true relationships aren’t about keeping score but to make sure the other person knows how valued and important they are.
A daily practice challenges the person who creates on “inspiration.” We have to mother everyday, and ultimately, it is the daily grind that gives us perspective, clarity and the “high’s” of motherhood. I am exploring if the same happens when I write everyday on the topics that normally light me up – motherhood, self-development, healing and creating. Sign up here to receive those thought nuggets in your inbox on the daily.