When something happens to us that is congruent with our beliefs, we feel safe. We feel that something is familiar, and we want more of it.
When something happens to us that contrasts with our beliefs, they jar us and can make us feel unsafe.
We seek safe moments but what if the beliefs we want to reinforce are outdated? Our survival mechanisms from childhood worked wonders back then but as adults, they can actually hinder our growth.
Playing up my young age and naivete worked when I was a child in order to get help from adults, but as an adult, it has hindered my communication in many areas including as an employee, a customer and a partner. I have had to work through the belief that people will only help me if I act vulnerable and unknowledgeable.
Our brains want to feel safe but at a certain point, that kind of safety is outdated and no longer serves us.
Can you identify a thought, belief or behavior that helped you survive your childhood? And how does it serve or not serve you now?
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