When I get triggered, I usually freak out and go down a rabbit hole of despair, anger, fear or frustration and stew there for a while before trying to forget what happened and moving on.
And then sometimes (maybe 2% of the time) I’ll only stay in that rabbit hole for only a little bit of time and then gather enough self-awareness, humility and courage to process my emotions and thoughts. I usually try to resolve the origin of it or look for other insight into why I did what I did.
I see these moments as lens or roadblock moments. In one scenario, getting triggered completely blocks any forward progress while in the other, getting triggered becomes an opportunity to dig a bit deeper into understanding myself (i.e., it becomes a my lens into who I am).
We cannot always expect a moment to be a lens moment but it is a beautiful thing when it happens.
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