Above all, we want to be seen and validated. Many of us were not fully (or sometimes never) seen and validated growing up – this can be on a familial level or on systemic, societal and cultural levels. To be seen by others is crucial at all ages and stages of our lives in order to develop a sense of self.
Before there were mirrors, there were people in our communities who reflected back to us who and what they saw. To be mirrored gives a realness and a boundary to our experience. Without mirrors, we constantly seek that definition of who we are.
When we are seen and validated, it brings a sense of ease within ourselves, and through that ease, we build capacity for empathy and for doing tough things. The more people who are seen and validated, the better chance this world has to be saved.
A daily practice challenges the person who creates on “inspiration.” We have to mother everyday, and ultimately, it is the daily grind that gives us perspective, clarity and the “high’s” of motherhood. I am exploring if the same happens when I write everyday on the topics that normally light me up – motherhood, self-development, healing and creating. Sign up here to receive those thought nuggets in your inbox on the daily.