One of the biggest turning points for me in understanding trauma was when Kimberly Ann Johnson explained to me that trauma is too much, too fast, too soon. And that can be from something that is good too.
The example she used was chocolate cake (yum!). She said that getting a whole cake shoved into our mouths can be traumatizing.
Too much of a good thing is not a good thing.
Recently, I was sharing with another coach that offering too much healing or transformation at one time is actually not something I want to do. That seems really backwards in our results oriented, capitalistic culture.
Lose 25 pounds in a week. Couch to 5K in 5 days. Master your mindset and undo a lifetime of limiting beliefs in 10 days.
Everyone wants to get results fast. They think that faster is better.
But faster is not sustainable. And it may just be too much for our bodies to handle.
Babies take 9 months to grow for a reason.
Imagine how awful pregnancy would be if all those changes happened in a week?
People say that our birth is our first trauma.
One second, we are in a warm cozy womb and the next, we are in a whole new world. It’s a lot in a very little bit of time.
Next time you are beating yourself up for not doing enough or changing/growing/healing as much as you’d like, remember that there is a lot of truth to “too much of a good thing.”
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