Breaking down a belief requires examining it from 360 degrees – with all the parts of ourselves and then reprogramming our minds. The layers are: main belief > supporting belief > disrupting statement > new affirmation.
I recently realized I carry a belief that getting promoted is not a good thing because it requires hard work. Here are various supporting beliefs why hard work repels me and how to reframe them.
Part of me does not think I can do the hard work. But I can do hard things! I have the ability to learn and take on responsibilities.
Part of me thinks hard work means more effort. But there are plenty of people at more senior levels than me who are not spending more effort than I am already spending.
Hard work means more time doing work. But working harder can also mean working smarter. I can absolutely do the work in an efficient way enabling me to enjoy the rest of my life.
Getting promoted means I did something sneaky to get there or I sold my soul. While it may be true for some folks, getting promoted is a recognition of my efforts. And it is safe to be recognized. Attention can be a good thing! It is safe to receive attention.
It has been engrained in me to stay under the radar. Only people who got in trouble received attention. Being a good girl meant silence.
Part of me also believes that I am not a good leader. But leadership comes in many varieties and being a petite Chinese woman does not take away from my ability to lead. I can define leadership in my own way.
Lastly, part of me thinks hard work means there will be more expected of me and I won’t be able to meet those expectations. But expectations are not set in stone. If they are unreasonable or unattainable, I have the ability to speak up and ask for help or to change them.
The way our beliefs work themselves into our consciousness fascinates me. There are many layers to each belief. Once I come to terms with this layer, there is the next one and then the next and the next. I think of how many times a day that I experience something that feeds into my various beliefs and supporting beliefs. I already have a lifetime of work ahead!
The key is to start slow, be curious and do it your way. Find what works for you in debunking and disrupting your thought process. You can do that hard work!
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