Sometimes it isn’t enough to believe that I am a good mom.
My faith waivers because motherhood is full of high’s that feel like I am checking all the boxes and low’s that bring me into dark, unresolved places in our soul.
When I hit a low, all of my practiced positive self-talk will not lift me out of that pit because I’m in the pit with myself!
This is when community comes into play.
When I’m in that pit, a friend saying the same words I would normally say to myself like “You’re the best mom for your kids” lands very differently. Those words help lift me out because she is way up there, resourced and ready to help. She is there to show that she sees me and that I am worthy of being seen.
We all need friends like that- who are not afraid of looking into the pit, who see us in the depths and who can give us our medicine.
It takes two though.
We need to start opening ourselves up to others and create real relationships. And then when we are in the pit or can feel ourselves heading towards it, we can send out a flare and say, “I need your help and your words and your love.”
And she will be there.
I write everyday because it allows me to voice what is at the surface. Once that is out of my head, I can dig in another layer deeper. My daily writing practice has been my greatest exploration of self and humanity. Sign up here to receive these thought nuggets in your inbox on the daily.