145. The importance of tenderness

Change is hard.

Obstacles will appear as we seek to disrupt and re-navigate patterns.

“Surmounting” the obstacles feels forced and tiring and dominating.

What if obstacles could be tended to? What if tenderness is the way through the obstacles?

Running through a cramp is one way of dealing with it. We certainly can say we dominated that cramp – showed it who’s boss! – by overriding our body’s signals and doing the thing we want to do and reaching that goal.

But what if we tended to that cramp instead? What if we massaged and heat pack’ed and gave it time?

What goal is worth dominating over something else whether that be our bodies or minds or the bodies or minds of others? What if, instead, we tended to all of those?