I grew up with the idea of “saving face” to mean moving on quickly so that the other party almost forgets about the problem. Saving face is more like turning and facing the other way so that my face is no longer associated with the problem. Saving face means to retain respect and avoid humiliations.
That is not an honorable way to live.
How I actually want to practice “saving face” is to apologize so that I can show my face to that person in the future. This is a tough practice as it goes against what is ingrained in me and maybe in my mother and her mother. But it is time to see saving face in a new light.
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