Noticing a pattern is a signal to the brain that there is something interesting, maybe even significant, to explore.
A pattern, by definition, continues unless something disrupts it.
As mothers, we have the opportunity to stop our harmful patterns so they don’t get passed down to our children and our children’s children.
Many times, those patterns did not start with us and recognizing the origin of the pattern helps in stopping it.
The origin is not a person. The origin is the circumstances that created the pattern. Identifying our ancestor’s life situation and the systemic, cultural and societal issues at play are what is needed to heal our wounds.
Knowing it did not originate with a person removes the blame that can paralyze us from taking action to rectify a pattern that does not serve us or our lineage.