Every mom deserves to be the heroine in her birth story.
This is why I created Unraveling Your Birth Story, a group program for moms who want to resolve their less than ideal births.
This program is for the mom whose birth story leaves her unsettled.
When, instead of pride, joy and achievement, she feels fear, disappointment, sadness or anger.
Giving birth does not occur in a vacuum.
It has a domino effect on the rest of our lives. Each birth starts a new chapter of motherhood for us and has the power to make us feel like a victim or like a heroine even 30 years later. That’s why this program is for moms with little’s or “seasoned” moms with grown kids.
The way that our children’s births impact us is not always obvious.
Sharing the story and allowing others into the vulnerabilities of the experience can help identify what false stories we are telling ourselves, how our birth has impacted our motherhood and what we can do to re-imagine our birth story.
Join the waitlist to learn when I open this program again.
Telling our birth stories is a great way to honor the experience.
However, in a regular setting, a mom cannot go deep into any true negative emotions that she still feels about her birth.
Some births are told as comedies while others are dramatic hero’s journeys but no one wants to hear a tragedy or a story with sad or unresolved aspects. Like fairy tales, listeners expect birth stories to end happily and to be able to tie it up nicely with a big bow. This goes into the challenge with processing our birth stories. We can only do so much processing on our own and when we are around a table sharing, we gloss over the parts that still make us cringe.
My second birth opened my eyes to how a less than ideal birth can impact you.
With my son’s birth, I never expressed how hurt, angry and sad I was about the birth when sharing details with my friends. I would positively highlight how I pushed for only 45 minutes vs. 4.5 hours with my first birth and also shared the things that were concerning about my son – cord around neck and blue, but, I never talked about my sense of defeat and disappointment when my doctor said I should birth on my back instead of on all fours, my desired position.
One of the reasons our birth stories leave us with a lump in our throats is when our “birth plan” does not come to fruition. Unlike many other situations in our lives, you can’t redo birth, there is no Control+Z option.
From listening to birth stories, I have found control, or the lack thereof, to be a common theme to a mom’s discontent. In our Type A society, we are are taught that everything is within our control and that we should be in control, which, of course, goes completely counter to birth.
Reframing the birth experience is one of the four steps to my process in unraveling a birth story.
After reframing my story to one where I did have a sense of control, I have been able to release the negativity I had about my second birth.
If you hope to release similar emotions around your birth experience, join the wait list today to learn the next time I open up enrollment for Unraveling Your Birth Story.